Girl Question # 3:
If I were to read the version of "Girl" in which a father were giving his daughter advice on how to be a well respected young-woman, I definitely would've been a bit disappointed giving the fact that this father has not been in the shoes of a woman and does not know what a woman's does or how she behave. Asking a man to act like a woman might give more of a stereotypical outcome of what a woman's role is. The man might start acting a little bit more delicately and feminine, trying his hardest not to get his hands dirty. He'd believe that being a woman meant staying at home, cooking, and taking care of the kids and the home, but when you look at what being a woman really is through a woman's eyes, you can see the hard work that must be put into making sure that her family is in good hands. It makes me think of how people stereotype gays and lesbians too. All in all, it wouldn't seem right to have a father giving advice to a daughter given that he himself does not know what being a woman consist of.
I think that you are making a good point here, it is similar to a scenario where a mother would be giving advice on how her son should be a man. This would probably influence her to give her son advice on how to be her type of ideal man. But in order to be accepted among men in society most of the time men teach other men what it really means to be a man. I am not saying that this is the case all the time, but definitely most men are shaped by other men in their life. Although it is good to listen to a woman's opinion on how a man should be.
ReplyDeleteI think that you are absolutely right because a man has no place instructing a woman on how to be a woman when he, himself is not one. There is also the circumstance of a single father that has to raise a daughter on his own, at that point he would have to advise his daughter on how to be a woman and that could be hard considering that he would have no one else to help him. In that case, he would have to do the best that he could to help her and to understand it himself.
ReplyDeleteA good point was made however, by a man instructing a girl on how to be a women or a mother instructing a boy on how to become a man we might be able to breakdown some of the social restrictions and norms present in our society. By switching the general roles of the parents a more diverse child can be developed who is not dictated by the traditional gender roles.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what you are sayiny, in this story if the father were to be the one talking to his daughter and instructing her it would be strange because a father doesnt know how to be a woman and couldnt give first hand experience into knowing what a woman should and shuoldnt do. Im not saying men couldnt give a daughter good advice, but coming from a mother it is alot different because the daughter knows she has gone through similar things. Also, I agree with you on a man might just view a womans job as this simple task of doing the basic things at home, but really there is alot more to it.
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